I believe though, that even if we know the solution to what ails us or better ways to conduct ourselves, it doesn’t mean we won’t or should shame ourselves from ever doing the seemingly counterproductive actions again.  Sometimes we must move backwards before we can move forward.

Using too many judgments and definitions in one's life can be a slippery slope.  Since judgments are made on observations and opinions of what only we ourselves have to work with, when you think about it, it is impossible for them to ever be 100% accurate.

Today I’m saying enough is enough...because I truly am enough as I am, and no amount of judgement is ever going to validate that truth.  So I am letting go of Judgement.  I encourage you to do the same, cause after all, it’s a rather silly, petty, game.  (Unfortunately one that can control any aspect of our lives that we allow it to.)

A piece written by Mollea Davis on her beautiful thoughts surrounding "WeAre_AsIs" and her struggles with helping herself towards freedom from the words and labels that tend to create confusion rather than the clarity they are meant to.

An Intimate, Open, and Truly Fair Connection

I stand here before you as myself through and through.
So please find it in your heart of hearts,
No alterations, no gimmicks,
just me and you...
To simply:

See Me

Here is an actual event that took placed and shined light onto the harsh reality of what I had been doing to myself by following the rigid guidelines I shared with you in Entry 1.  Also the real raw realizations learned as well as some inspiration and hope for others who have been in similar situations

I have a typical pattern of comfort that use to rule everything I did and while I'd like to say that Ive completely freed myself from it, I can not; it is still lurking within, at times, more present than others.  I know I'm not the only one who follows a variation of this particular pattern, which is why I am sharing it.  For me, I have recognized that this comforting technique was birthed many years ago, at a time where I had about zero self esteem.

Here is the third and final entry of The Never Ending Struggle to Be Me.  Some food for thought and questions to ponder. 

These feelings, fears and traits surrounding self worth, and not feeling that one can be their true selves in order to fit in, are nothing to be taken lightly. To move forward and grow as a person we must live and learn of course, but how can one do that if they are too afraid to live from fear of being judged. What kind of happiness can one create for themselves when they are constantly pleasing someone else or are so hard on themselves that they literally can do nothing right through their own eyes.

Here is the second Entry of the Never Ending Struggle to Be Me which will give you a view into some of the events that took place after third grade that led me to fear judgement, and afraid of showing my true colors.

The struggle for me to be me, or for you to be you is real.  It is one that for many of us, is present numerous times a day.  This topic that so many of us deal with is so hard, because many times what we see of other people, we take at face value.  What we see or witness is who we think of those people to be.  For too many of us though, we are trying our best to just fit in, to not be judged, and to not completely lose our true selves in the process.  This struggle creates an enormous amount of anxiety, confusion, and depression, three states of being, I'm sure no one really loves to find themselves in.  As we silently struggle to belong, we feel like everyone else easily fits in, which makes us feel the need to try harder and beat ourselves up even more. 

Can You Relate?

I want to share my personal story. The story that makes me so passionate about this topic. So those of you who can relate, maybe won't feel as alone as you did, before you read this.

So here, in each entry, I'll hold true to myself...ALL that I AM....and honor the natural Beauty and every last Perfectly Imperfect part of my life that makes up ME.  I hope you join me on this journey of We Are _( Insert Your own Words Here) _ As Is...because I know ALL of us out there have at the very least felt sub par or like we were a fraud to the title we were trying to own. 

We all do it...or at least most of us do... Analyzing, perfecting....sharing only our "best selves" with outsiders.  Even sometimes those we love. But Why? What are we afraid of? Why are the judgements of others, so scary? 

~It is more than okay to display all that you are and all that you feel within, out into this world~

For those of you who can relate, I am a highly sensitive soul.  I feel fully so many emotions not only from within myself, but from all who surround me as well.  I feel like having this sometimes seemingly heavy curse is in all actuality, a grand gift.  One that enables me to connect closely not only with all that I am, but all who cross my path.